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Many married women seem to be living a double life today. Despite the fact that they are one of two parents in a household, they have taken on the responsibility of being the parent who parents. They are the mothers and dads who do everything from attending Parents’ Night at school to taking days off from work to care for a sick child, without any help from their spouses. As a parent it is the most frustrating situation to deal with.
Whether working full-time outside the home, or choosing to be a stay-at-home mom, some women are finding that all of the responsibility of raising a child falls all on them. You find no time left to pamper yourself. You feel guilty if you do go out for once in a lifetime. Or you get calls while you are out asking when will you be home.
God says husband and wife are equally yoke!
I believe responsibility sould not fall to one parent. We decided that I would be a stay-at-home mom but that shouldn’t mean I have no time for myself. I am grateful that my spouse takes time to participate in our children’s lives. But this is not the case for all homes. My heart goes out to you. I was once in these shoes in a previous marriage .
Some moms or stay at home dads are doing it all from driving to and from practices, the ongoing doctors and dentist appointments, cooking, cleaning, paying bills, and everything that comes up. Even though the spouse is in the house, many feel like their spouse is a visitor who never left.
After a long exhausting day, your work is not done because your mate now needs intimacy. You are exhausted and possibly ridiculed because of your lack of desire in this area. What gives? It needs to be balance for healthy relationship.
In a two parent home, both parents need to live up to their responsibilities and share the raising of their children. The idea of one parent doing all the work, while both parents reap the joy of having children, is outdated and UnGodly in my opinion! Stop pretending to be happy with material things when you know you are unhappy, feeling unloved, and all alone in the marriage. Stop making excuses! Peel the layers away and be renewed with God’s true purpose for marriage.
Confront the problem and not cover it up.
Are your children happy? Perhaps they also are reaping the sorrow of having only one parent participation. Talk with them and don’t make it all about you.
Being a parent is a joy and an honor from God, as well as a responsibility. Children are miracles not mistakes. Blessings, not burdens. So sit down with your spouse and confront the situation before it causes division. Balance the chores and alternate the days of being involved in the children day today activities. Most importantly, remember stay at home mom is a full time job.
God blessed you with children, so will you blame them for your misery or will you see God for the instructions of these little miracles?
A Woman After God’s Own Heart
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