Have you ever been in a situation where a trusted friend lied to you? What is the best way to respond? First, it usually comes as a shock. You don’t want to believe that your trusted friend actually lied. Sooner or later you realize that she did, and you feel hurt, upset, angry and perhaps betrayed.
You don’t want to start any chaos, but your friend’s dishonesty is unacceptable to you. Should you confront her? It’s up to you to decide if you should take her face to face, but if you want to restore the relationship and begin to trust your friend again, you will have to get past this incident. If not then move on after giving her your reasons.
I have to say we must analyze the lie, and the motives behind it. First, give your friend the benefit of the doubt and make sure she didn’t say something inadvertently that was more mistake than a bold out LIE. Once you have established that she outright lied, you should probably bring it to her attention if you hope to resolve the issue.
She may readily admit that she fibbed, or she may try to hide it or make excuses. Tell her in a kind way that you cannot trust someone whom is less than honest. If she does not admit the truth and apologize, it might be best to reconsider the relationship. Pray for her.
However, make sure you also keep things in perspective. If it was “a little white lie” to avoid hurting your feelings or someone else’s, don’t blow it out of proportion. Explain to your friend that in the future you would prefer the truth, no matter what.
There are times when even good people lie. Knowing this does not make it smart any less, but knowing that even your closest friend is human and that she makes mistakes, should help you figure out the best way to deal with the situation. Setting the example by practicing honest communication at all times, should help your friend see how important it is for her to be truthful with you.
If your friend confesses up and seeks your forgiveness, be gracious. Forgive her and drop the subject. This doesn’t necessarily mean that you will forget the situation right away, or ever. In fact, you probably shouldn’t forget completely. When someone lies we need to be careful about believing what they say in the near future.
I have a friend who lied to me recently in hopes to compete and cause me to envy or become jealous. It is not my character because God is my supplier and He shall supply what I need not wants. Material things can ruin friendships. I have yet to confront my friend because I first must seek God, so that I do not fall into flesh and emotions. I am dumb founded to the whole act and disappointed too.
I still will love with the heart of God, but at a distant. This isn’t the first lie this person has told to me. Some people don’t know or value true friendships until it’s gone. I am becoming distant because life is to short to have people you trust, lie for no reason. Both persons must have a deep respect for the friendship.
As of now I will hold my tongue and seek God on this issue for His direction.
A Woman After God’s Own Heart